Hello fellow bloggers, and welcome to BEA, your four-step program for taking your jealousy toward each other and twisting it into something productive rather than detrimental. With Thanksgiving approaching for us Americans, the book blogging community should be full of gratitude, and there is no better time to detox your mind of bitter feelings. While we will never be able to flush all the envy out of blogging, we can put the competitive sides of our brains to work, and by following this simple process, you can do just that.
1. Identify the source of your jealousy.
Are you lusting after Blogger A's giant book hauls? Or perhaps it is Blogger B's clever reviewing style that you desire. Whatever it is, figure out exactly what paints your eyes a shiny emerald green. Got it? Okay, now it is time to…
2. Acknowledge the problem.
You are jealous. That is normal. And as long as you can keep that feeling in check, that is okay. In fact, if you deal with it correctly, it can be great. You should try to improve your blog, and watching other bloggers who excel in a certain area can inspire you to…
3. Use your jealousy as a motivator.
When a person wants something that someone else has, he or she tends to resort to two natural reactions: hating the person who is causing the jealousy and/or hating his or herself. But it does not have to be this way. Instead of viewing other bloggers as competition, turn their successes into your goals and compete with yourself and only yourself. Instead of thinking, My discussion posts are terrible compared to that blogger's, think, She always shares such thoughtful, intelligent opinions. She is a great blogger and can inspire me. When you shift your thoughts from jealous self-insults to kind observations and goals for yourself, you improve your attitude toward both parties and encourage yourself to reach for your ambitions.
And when all else fails and you cannot crush the little jealous voice nagging in your ear, just remember…
4. Do not think other bloggers' successes make your site any less special.
There is room for thousands of blogs in the blogosphere. Each one has a different set of readers because each one produces different content, and you will never be able to appeal to everyone. I read other blogs because I like the bloggers' voices and trust their tastes in books, but I cannot say that about every website I visit. Your blog will not be right for everyone, but this community allows you to connect with the people who do love your content. Talk to people who read your blog, and talk to the people whose blogs you read. Soon you will see that no matter how many comments someone else's creative post received, you can still shine in your own blogging style.
How do you overcome your blogging jealousy? Share your tips in the comments.